No Fault Relationships


James 5: 16 "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another that ye might be healed"
 
Have you ever heard of no fault car insurance?  It means that your car insurance company will pay your bills if you get into a car accident, regardless of who was at fault for the accident.
 
Have you ever heard of "no fault relationships"?  Just like car insurance, no fault relationships focus on the positive, no matter who was at fault.  I believe they are the healthiest relationships on earth.
 
In the past, I've had people tell me that James 5:16 says that we should confess all our faults to one another, our known and "unknown" sins, before we can be blessed or healed.  It's impossible to remember and confess every sin, every fault, every mistake!
 
James 5: 16 isn't speaking about remembering your sins.  It's explaining that if someone tells you their faults, if we are in a healthy "no fault relationship" with them, our response will be to remind them of what God says.  To tell them that they are righteous and holy and without blame in the sight of God. 
 
When we respond this way, it will be easy for that person to be healed, to start the process of change in their behavior in the future.  When we remind people of their true identity in Christ, they will behave and live based on who they already are and not defined by the mistakes they've made. 
 
So try this next time some wants to tell you how awful they've been.  Tell them, "Hey, I've got good news, that’s not who you really are, you're righteous".  I guarantee you you'll shock them!  Let 2016 be a year of "no fault relationships" in your family, on the job, at school, wherever you go.